All too often, associating in the circles I do on twitter & Facebook, I hear of how plus size women are frequently subjected to verbal abused in public. I myself have been subjected to such fat jibes for as long as I can remember, I mean honestly, at what point was it ok to shout abuse at another human being in the street? And more importantly at what point will it stop? In recent months, having found blogging, the fatosphere and having been inspired by so many fabulous women I seem to have found my big fat voice. Over Christmas I was enjoying a meal with my husband, a group of lads across from us were becoming more & more vocal when one of them commented on a chap as he passed by... " look at that fat bastard" "he's such a fat c**t (sorry I just can't write it, I'm totally ok with saying though as you'll soon see) The guy continued walking, I however was now gunning for a fight and if I'm completely honest, willing them to say something to me. Low and behold, he did. "Look at that fat bitch in the corner stuffing her face".... Well, that was it! I replied, "I'm sorry, are you talking to me?" he looked and winced, I carried on "yes, hello? Me, the fat bitch in the corner, well you know what sweetheart, I could lose weight if I wanted to, but you're always going to be c**t", and with that they swiftly downed their pints and left. I felt quite euphoric, how dare they? How dare they make people feel like that? But I guess in hindsight I question whether I'm just as bad, should I have left it? Should I have ignored him? Two wrongs do not make a right? Maybe. A few weeks ago I found myself subjected to another comment whilst walking home, two teenage lads shouted across the street "god your arse is massive" to which I joyfully replied "I know, glorious isn't it?!" leaving them dumbstruck. This response I felt much better about, I felt I'd turned a negative into a positive. What I have taken from both experiences is that no longer, when being abused by another human being, will I walk on by, go home and sob about my experience. I will always try to respond best I can at the time. Because it is NOT ok for these "people" and I use that term loosely, to make others feel that way, to comment on things they know nothing of and to cause misery and pain.
Hey mister... I'm fat, I know I am, I'm ok with this. My body is my business, my health is no concern of yours, I'm here, I'm visible and there's nothing you can do about it, keep your vile "opinions" to yourself.